About 7 weeks after birthing her sweet daughter, Amaya Aspen, Melissa wrote the following. I am choosing to share her words as I simply don’t have any better. She was able to embody my WHY in one text message. It brings tears to my eyes to share her story with you.
"I've given some more thought to what images are ok to share. Right after the birth, I was feeling almost protective and had some fears around the images of my breasts being shown. But after some distance and some more thought, I've decided that it's really important to me to share my story and the images to show others that it's possible to have an empowering, beautiful, and even healing birth experience.
So many of my peers seem like they expect birth to be inherently traumatic and disempowering and I want to show that it doesn't have to be that way. I realized that my fear around showing my breasts was due to some patriarchal ideas that I was still holding onto - that my naked body is somehow 'bad' or should be hidden. I believe that those sexist ideas are a part of the problem our country has around birth when the truth is that my body, all women's bodies, are effing amazing!
I created and birthed a beautiful baby and now I am keeping her alive with my body and I don't want to hide that truth! So please share any image and the video on any platform you decide. I think this is another step towards reclaiming my power and I just really want to say thank you for being a part of my process. I'm still working through my understanding of what happened, specifically the fear that came up in the loss of control when I was pushing. But I never once felt along through my birth journey - before, during, and months after - and I can't thank you guys enough for that. You have helped me more than you know."